Life management insights, strategies, hints, ideas, and tips from Dr. DClutter™.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

For Crying Out Loud

Ah, new parenthood. Days of “oh’s” and “ah’s” over the new addition to the family and the joy of the new life created and sleep deprivation. If you know someone who just had a baby, offer to baby-sit or run errands for the new parents.


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Tuesday, June 29, 2010

At Your Service

As we get older, we may become more dependent on others for help. Why not volunteer to perform some task that will brighten their day? Perhaps you can mow the lawn. Not only will you help beautify their space, but you'll burn a few calories. It’s a win-win situation!!


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Monday, June 28, 2010

Summer Storm

Rain and wind? That's my kind of Monday!!

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You Look Marvelous!!

Compliment everyone you encounter today and mean it!!


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Friday, June 25, 2010


I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. DClutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. DClutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. DClutter™.

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Thursday, June 24, 2010

Share the Bounty

Have you had this happen to you? You’ve planned a meal, but some how you ended up with too much food. Here’s a great opportunity to fix a meal for a homebound person. The act will be greatly appreciated.


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Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Child's Play

Buy a toy to donate to a children’s hospital.


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Tuesday, June 22, 2010

It's a Party

Organize a block party to increase and encourage neighborhood unity.


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Monday, June 21, 2010

Passport to Adventure ("Book" a Trip)

Libraries are the travel agents for those of us who can’t afford an actual vacation at the moment. Books offer the mind a trip to many far away places and adventures. Why not contribute to someone’s “staycation” (stay-at-home-vacation) by donating your gently used books to your local library.




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Friday, June 18, 2010


I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. DClutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. DClutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. DClutter™.

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Thursday, June 17, 2010

Life and Lemons

You've heard the adage, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade", right? Well how about taking it one step further and set up a free lemonade stand on a hot summer’s day; don’t forget the water!! You’ll be the talk of the block.


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Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Page Turner

Reading is fundamental for the success of our children. Help to increase the odds of that success and volunteer to read to school age children at your local school.


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Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Living History (Be a Sponge)

History is based on the events of the past, correct? Why wait to read about it in a book when you can interact with a living historian? Visit with a wise, elderly person and hear about history first hand.


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Monday, June 14, 2010

Care Package

The next time you’re in the store, pick up a few extra items and send a care package to a soldier serving our country or for the person who lives right next door.


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Friday, June 11, 2010

Happy Birthday Moma!!

Join me in wishing the bestest mother in the world, a happy birthday!!





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Thursday, June 10, 2010

Food for Thought (It's in the Bank)

What did you have for dinner last night? I’m sure it was plentiful and enjoyable. Unfortunately, everyone is not as fortunate. Start or organize a food drive for your local food bank and give the gift of nourishment.




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Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Acts of Kindness

With a purpose to our lives, we are our most productive. It is my belief that our lives are fullest when we’re able to help others. So, for the next few months, my focus will be on acts of kindness that you can perform.


Many of the acts cost under $10. Better yet, many don’t cost you any money, just the donation of your time. The blessing is that you don’t have to wait for a special day, time, month or a New Year’s resolution to start. Just read and start performing random acts of kindness!!

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Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Verbalize Your Behavior

If you were late arriving at an event, would you tell the host that you didn't think it was worth your time and effort to arrive on time? Would you say that your time was more precious than theirs? Probably not, but that's what your behavior "says". Would you throw a $50 bill in the garbage and leave it there? Would you then say it didn't matter or wasn't valuable? That's what your behavior "says" when you are wasteful. If you were walking down the street, would you cut in front of another pedestrian and start yelling profanities? You do if you practice aggressive driving and it's what your behavior "says". Obviously, these are extreme examples, but they were used in a recent class I taught to help the students understand how behaviors affect their lives, the lives of others and may be perceived by others. If we all had to verbalize our actions, most of us would cease performing negative and self-destructive practices. Try it the next time you find yourself practicing a habit or behavior that you want to change. Just say it.


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Monday, June 7, 2010

Still Unhappy?

Why are we still unhappy when we receive the very thing for which we've asked?


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Friday, June 4, 2010


I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. DClutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. DClutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. DClutter™.

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Thursday, June 3, 2010

Ageless?

Age is a matter of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter. Mark Twain


Remember the good old days when getting older was valued and honored? Remember when we looked for guidance and words of wisdom from those who had survived and were advancing in years? Well, you probably have a great memory!! Today, if you mention that you're over 40, you're likely to get shipped off to a retirement village. Okay, that's an exaggeration. But we are youth obsessed society. Got a wrinkle? There's a cream for that. Thinning hair? Rub a concoction on it. Gray hair? Wash it right outta there. I'm not saying that you HAVE to grow old gracefully or that you shouldn't live a healthy, energized and exciting life because you really should. You should strive to eat healthy foods, exercise, spend time with friends and family and laugh daily. We all know what we SHOULD do to grow old gracefully, so instead of trying to deny and delay the passage of time, embrace it.

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Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Have vs. Get

Have you ever had a chore or project that you simply did not want to do? Try this, instead of saying "I have to" do a chore or project, say, "I get to" do a chore or project. While it may sound like a simple play on words, words are powerful and can affect your mood and thinking, so why not use them to your advantage? Retrain yourself to believe that it's your choice or privilege to complete the chore or project, and not a dreaded task or obligation.

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Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Title Optional??

This is a typical conversation between individuals: "What do you do?" "I am a (fill-in-the-blank)." I know that titles seem or are necessary, but wouldn't it be nice not to be pigeonholed into "being" one thing? Wouldn't it be great if you could call yourself whatever you wanted? Well, you can, but it might be met with a look of confusion. But, sadly, for most of us, calling ourselves whatever we want is not the case. We live in a society that requires titles short enough to fit on a business card. If I HAD to choose a title, I would call myself a "Renaissance Specialist" (click here http://www.soundboard.com/sb/crickets_sounds_audio.aspx). Okay, I made you work for that one and yes, that's the sound of silence (not really because the crickets are making noise, but you get the picture I'm trying to paint here). Although it makes perfect sense to me to call myself a "Renaissance Specialist", to most people it would cause a raised eyebrow. I want to make sure that I'm never forced into a box of "who" I am or what I "do". I wear many hats and possess many talents, and want to represent them all well. So from now on, I'm a "Renaissance Specialist", but to lower your eyebrow, my business card still reads, "Life Management Specialist". Compromising and flexibility are good traits to have, if I do say so myself. What about you?


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I am Dr. Darnita L. Payden, Executive Director/Owner of Dr. DClutter™ Life Management, a division of PreciousOnes™ LLC. I have a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and over 20 years of experience working to help clients discover their strengths and talents. Having worked as a therapist, college professor, grief specialist and trainer, I have encountered in my journey many of the issues my clients may face. I have a sincere desire to help you find clarity, organization and independence in your life and environments. I know that life can be hectic, but I desire to help my clients bring as much order, peace and enjoyment back into their lives as is possible. What separates me from the norm? I focus on the client from a holistic perspective. I realize that most people desire a functional and an organized life, but may simply need support, understanding and information about why they have the habits or tendencies that have led to disorganization. I do not perform “quick fixes” or provide “one-size-fits-all” guidance, but I strive to provide strategies to my clients that will be life changing and useful for a lifetime. Dr. DClutter™ is a name well earned!!

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