I had a friend call me the other day. She was dating a man for a while and wanted my advice on how the relationship was progressing and whether she should continue in it. I thought it was funny that she consulted me about her relationship and not him, but I understood her motivation. As the conversation progressed, she explained that he had become distant, aloof and secretive. All red flags, if you ask me, and I told her that. To make a long story short, I suggested she do a pro and con list to evaluate the relationship. I cautioned her not to sanitize the negative aspects and to be honest with herself about the positive aspects. You can imagine how that little exercise turned out. The con side of the list was twice as long as the pro side, yet she still thought it was a viable relationship. Often times a friend may come to you knowing the answer to a problem. They may be hoping you will validate a situation or relationship, which will give them the opportunity to make a decision that is probably not the best one for them. Be very careful of getting caught in this situation. Have them do a pro/con list and then discuss the true aspects of the situation, based on the facts, not necessarily the desired outcome.
Dr. D. Clutter™
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- Dr. DClutter™
- Washington, DC, United States
- I am Dr. Darnita L. Payden, Executive Director/Owner of Dr. DClutter™ Life Management, a division of PreciousOnes™ LLC. I have a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and over 20 years of experience working to help clients discover their strengths and talents. Having worked as a therapist, college professor, grief specialist and trainer, I have encountered in my journey many of the issues my clients may face. I have a sincere desire to help you find clarity, organization and independence in your life and environments. I know that life can be hectic, but I desire to help my clients bring as much order, peace and enjoyment back into their lives as is possible. What separates me from the norm? I focus on the client from a holistic perspective. I realize that most people desire a functional and an organized life, but may simply need support, understanding and information about why they have the habits or tendencies that have led to disorganization. I do not perform “quick fixes” or provide “one-size-fits-all” guidance, but I strive to provide strategies to my clients that will be life changing and useful for a lifetime. Dr. DClutter™ is a name well earned!!
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