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Thursday, March 12, 2009


It really irks me when people don't plan and then expect my life to be altered to fit their needs. Does this sound familiar? You have your day planned and someone calls and says they need your help. They say, "Hey, I need you to take me somewhere". "When?” you ask. "Right now.” "What??!! Are you serious?” "How long have you known you needed a ride?" "Oh, I've known for a week or so, but I just thought you'd be able to help." By now, you're possibly flabbergasted. Scene over. If you're like me, I ask what the favor is before I offer my help. I never want to commit myself to something without knowing the full picture. Does that mean that I'm not flexible or not spontaneous? No!! It's selfish on the other person's part to expect you to alter your routine because of their lack of planning. Of course, if it is a true emergency or you’re able to help, do so. As a general rule, I suggest not putting anyone in that position. Plan so that you can keep the peace.

Dr. D. Clutter™

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