When I ask clients to tell me about themselves, I usually get a speech about what type of work they do. When I ask the question again and ask them to tell me something else about themselves, I get a family history. After the third time, I say to them that I’m asking them to tell me who they are without giving me a job description or a family history. I know it can be difficult to separate what we “do” from who we are, but I think it’s extremely important that we learn to do so. What happens if you lose your job or you divorce? Will you cease to be whom you described? Of course not, but if your self-identity is tied to a position or another person, you may feel that way. Redefine who you are so that the next time someone asks who you are, you’ll have a great answer.
Dr. D. Clutter™
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